While going through a divorce, things can get more stressful and busier than you can handle. During this hectic time, it is possible for you to overlook some of the child custody issues that will arise later if you don't plan for them now. Below, you will find a list of things to make sure to deal with during the divorce to avoid complications and disputes after the divorce is final.
There are many decisions to be made regarding your child's education. Who will make these decisions – you, your former spouse, or will you work together to come to a decision? Unfortunately, children can begin to struggle in school during and following a divorce. This is likely because of the added stress at home and the changes that they are experiencing. Work something out during the divorce to decide how this and other educational decisions will be handled.
Sadly, medical issues will arise at some point. How will these decisions be handled? You can agree that the parent that has the child at the time can make the decisions that need to be made, or you can require that both parents consent for the treatment that the doctor is suggesting. Giving this type of issue thought before it happens will take much of the stress and dispute out of the situation when the time comes.
This is probably one of the most difficult elements of being a divorced parent. You are probably used to waking up with your children each holiday morning and celebrating the day with them. So, now that the children have two homes, how will you schedule the holidays? Will you do every other holiday or every other year with each holiday? Will your children spend Christmas Eve with one parent and Christmas day with the other? Will you keep the family together for the holidays and remain civil?
There will be times in which you and your former spouse cannot agree on something. Determining how to handle these disagreements before they occur will make them much easier to conclude with less resentment. You may find it best to work with a therapist, mediator or some other professional third party to gain insight and advise your family how to proceed.
These decisions should be made before the divorce is final so that each subject can be included in the divorce agreement. Talk with your lawyer, such as Larson, Latham, Huettl Attorneys, to learn how to include these types of things in your divorce so that everyone knows exactly how things should be handled after the divorce is final.